I know a lot of people with a lot of goals and plans to achieve those goals… but sometimes you can feel trapped. There are financial traps, time traps, relationship traps, geographic traps, all kinds of traps. Many people are frustrated because they can’t seem to achieve what they desire most. You may feel you’re not where you’re supposed to be in life, and a lot of us feel that way. But now’s the time to do something about it. That demon that has been frustrating your plans has been screwing with you long enough. So in the words of Stephen Pressfield, “it’s time to slay that micky ficky”.
Let’s do it!
Last night I was hanging out with an NFL player that was recently cut from the Buffalo Bills… He came back to Florida to spend time with family and friends for a couple of weeks before heading to Syracuse. I asked him how he felt about getting cut from the team, and he simply told me “it happens! I just gotta keep working hard and stay focused.”
My friend is a rookie who signed on as a free agent. The main reason he was cut was because of issues he had with another player. But he didn’t blame that player, he blamed himself because you can’t give people the power to make you fail. You have to find a way to achieve your goals regardless. So my friend’s plan is to take his sign on bonus and invest it… in the meantime, he’s going to keep training hard and solicit teams for another opportunity.
We all make mistakes… but our failures are an opportunity to grow and learn. Most people use failure as an excuse to quit… but what does quitting accomplish? Nothing!
We’re not done… let’s slay this demon.
You may feel like you don’t have the finances to do what you want, and that’s probably true. But money can’t stop you from dreaming. I know a man that moved to Florida with four kids, a pregnant wife, and $50 in his pocket. He started going around construction sites picking up debris with his hands and packing it in a truck that didn’t run. After saving some money he bought a trailer. Later he bought his first waste vehicle. Now he’s Waste Management’s biggest competition in south Florida.
Come on, that devil isn’t dead yet.
I was working 50 hours a week for a company that took really good care of me. But I was feeling depressed. I had dreams and goals I wanted to accomplish… and I knew that until I did what was in my heart I would never be happy.
My main excuse was time. I was working with a friend on a video training for a whole year and we never finished a single vid. What the heck? Thinking that time was my enemy I quit my job and took a huge financial gamble. Two weeks later I finished my first video series. It was two hours worth of video I wrote, recorded, and edited in two weeks. This is something I could’ve done in the evenings or on my days off. But since I had in my mind time was my enemy I sabotaged the whole project. But when I got hungry enough I killed it and also wrote a book in the process… My mistake [two books]. Time is not your enemy. Let’s get back to this demon.
Most of us just really wish we had a break. If we could just meet the right people everything will go well. For example, I have friends (and family) that have been trying to penetrate the music industry for years… and these are really talented people. But the problem… they’re waiting for someone to give them a break. It doesn’t work like that (most of the time).
Tayler Swift said something pretty awesome, she said, “In the future, artists will get record deals because they have fans — not the other way around.” And you can already see this phenomenon happening with YouTube celebrities and Vine stars. They’re now getting record deals, sponsors, and roles in movies.
So you don’t have to wait for anyone to give you anything, sometimes you just have to take it.
Being in the right place is essential. For years, I was living in Naples, Florida with retiree’s and sluggards. Often I would travel to places like Orlando and Miami in order to surround myself with like-minded people. That helped. Eventually, I moved.
If you want to be a movie star LA’s probably the place to go. If you want to be a musician, it wouldn’t be a bad idea to take a trip to New York. The world has no walls, you can explore. I was born in Ohio, but I felt I outgrew my surroundings, so I left and lived many places, but Florida made the most sense. Why be limited by geography?
So the bottom line is this: if you want to accomplish your goals you have to start somewhere. Don’t get hung up on what you haven’t done already. You can’t be a rockstar without a guitar. You want to be a model, start taking pictures, sign up for casting calls, start networking. Wanna be to be a writer? Write something, start blogging, Instagramming, get your work out there. That demon will never die until you attack it… and attack that micky ficky head on and let it know who’s boss.
You got this!